from "the art of loving" Erich Fromm

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love means:
1. be centered, concentrate...ability to love and be alone with yourself
2.listen, listen and listen
3.live fully in present, don't see him/her through your past or future
4. about see others without your fears or expectations or hopes
5.when u are afraid of not being loved the real is...you are afraid of loving him/her.

and love is about commit  without guarantee


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